Schooled in Feminism: an Ally's Perspective—Faruk Ates

In April 2011 I started blogging about feminism in tech. What I thought would be just another topic ended up becoming a huge part of my life. Along the way I made many mistakes: failing to be inclusive, alienating friends with my intensity, and behaving exactly like a privileged white male when discussing these issues. I’ve felt the fears, the feeling of being overwhelmed by the sheer volume of vitriol to deal with, and the heartbroken hollowness at some people’s awful behaviour—things that many women who speak out are familiar with. But as a male ally, experiencing it through the looking glass of my own privileges has been incredibly enlightening.

In this talk I’ll share these experiences and how they taught me a greater level of empathy and understanding. I’ll explain why it matters that men speak out, and what pitfalls we must all overcome if we’re going to make a more inclusive culture in both tech and online communities in general. You’ll learn:

  • The pitfalls of communicating about feminism, sexism, and diversity.
  • How to improve your understanding of—and empathy for—people who face systemic discrimination.
  • What you can do to make positive change happen, even if you don’t want to confront people or speak out yourself.

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